Suffering is Free

I started getting migraines about a year and a half ago. My sister has gotten them for her whole life, and when she had one, I never really understood what she was going through.

It’s just not a really bad headache. Yes, there is intense pain. I describe it as an alien creature with a gardening trowel trying to dig its way out of my head from behind my right eye. Along with the pain, for me there comes intense nausea, seeing wavy lines, feeling dizzy, and having my senses heighten so much that light and sound are painful. There also seems to be a general sense of disconnectedness. Like I am trying to escape my body but something is cruelly pinning me down.

When I see the wavy lines, the song “Wave of Mutilation” by the Pixies always pops into my head.[1] But, the best song that really captures a migraine is Mr. Bungle’s “Goodbye Sober Day,” particularly starting at about 3 minutes in.

It’s unpleasant.

And my migraines last for days.

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It's "its," not "it's."

I don’t have perfect grammar by any means. I start a lot of my sentences with “And” and “But.” I often use fragments for stylistic purposes. I overuse the word “that.” Not to mention, sometimes I get my use of “that” and “which” mixed up. This is all to say that I’m certainly no expert on the subject.

Nevertheless, few spelling/grammar faux pas irritate me more than improper use of apostrophes. (The only one I can think of that annoys me more is the “fewer”/”less” distinction, but that’s a story for another day.)

Apostrophes are primarily used to make contractions and to show possession.

There is a difference between “its” and “it’s.” I understand why this could possibly be confusing, because “its” shows possession without an apostrophe, but “it’s” is clearly a contraction for “it is.” Not to mention, words like “his” and “her” also show possession without use of an apostrophe.

Lately, though, I’ve been seeing a lot of writing which uses the apostrophe to make words plural, which is just wrong and ridiculous. In the past week, I’ve seen the following: “one’s,” “Friday’s,” and even “marshmallow’s.” None of these cases was the “‘s” being used to show possession.

Yes, I’ve run into the problem of how to make letters and numbers plural, as in: “There were 15 Cs on the exam.” I’ve seen this written: “There were 15 C’s on the exam,” but when the letter is capitalized, I think the proper way to do this is just adding an “s.”

It’s only recently that I’ve been seeing this mistake with regular, everyday words. Normally, I could blame Twitter or texting, but that just doesn’t explain it.

So, I ask, what is everyone’s sudden infatuation with the apostrophe?

Good Luck with That

I’m sick of hearing people say: “If you believe in something and work really hard, you can do it!”

It’s luck, people. Deal with it.

And the pharoah gets all the credit.

Okay, so maybe it’s not all luck. Sometimes hard work is rewarded, but often times it isn’t. I suppose this all depends on what one means by being “rewarded,” but usually it means something like praise, recognition, financial compensation, or even just pride in a hard day’s work. But, pride doesn’t put food on the table. Not to mention, it doesn’t take a whole lot to have the rug pulled out from under your pride with a nice bit of criticism.

The truth of the matter is that some people achieve their dreams and other people don’t, and it’s just a lie that hard work is the key to achieving dreams. For one, not all dreams require hard work, but more importantly, there are a lot of other contributing factors.

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